The Importance of Rest in Eating Disorder Recovery
In our fast-paced world, the idea of rest can feel foreign, especially when busyness and doing more are congratulated. The constant pressure to perform, achieve, and remain 'on the go' can often fuel a relentless cycle of self-criticism, disordered eating patterns and unrealistic expectations when it comes to exercising. But what if we could transform this narrative? What if, instead of always doing, we allowed ourselves the grace of simply being? How would this look in eating disorder recovery? Could we congratulate rest?
If you’re wired like me, a self-confessed perfectionist and high achiever – you’re probably thinking “I don’t have time to rest.” As a mother of two, working two jobs and living in a new place, I feel the same. Time is precious. There are household tasks to do, bills to pay, work to catch up on, social activities to attend, and if you’re in recovery, behavioural goals to practice and medical appointments to attend.
I still struggle with slowing down, and in particular, saying no. But it was something I had to practice in my own recovery from an eating disorder ten years ago. I learned that when I allowed myself to pause, I created space to reflect on my feelings, my needs, and my values. It can be very scary to rest, since all the thoughts and feelings that we wish to avoid have no place to hide. It can also be very therapeutic, because we realise that we can observe our thoughts and decide which ones to listen to, and which ones to let pass. The more we practice resting and being present, the less afraid of our feelings we become, and the easier it becomes to listen to our bodies.
Of course, this all takes time. And lots and lots of practice. It’s much easier on days like today, during my annual holiday to Ballater, Scotland, amidst the tranquil hills and autumnal landscape.
But even when I am back at home with children screaming, a messy house and work deadlines, I am reminded to make space for a mini pause. Even if it’s just for a couple of minutes to journal my thoughts or enjoy a cup of tea in the quiet.
I challenge you to do the same. Because in this space of 'doing nothing,' you might just discover a new piece of the jigsaw in your own recovery puzzle.
If you struggle with slowing down, disordered eating, an eating disorder, or a compulsion to exercise, I’d love to help. I offer coaching services to anyone wishing to heal their relationship with food and their bodies. I offer eating disorder help online, or if you’re in Scotland, in person too. Get in touch for a free discovery call :)
